The Check In

Here are the questions we (the facilitators) use for our weekly checks-ins.

Note: This is done outside of any dynamic.

  1. Appreciations
    • Goes back and forth
    • Can be as many or as little as you, and can be for anything, big or small
    • We usually alternate who goes first.
    • Before moving to step 2, we ask: “Is there anything I missed / you want to be appreciated for?”
  2. New Information
    • Calendar stuff, things that happened at work, there’s that new dish I want to cook, those types of things
  3. Puzzles (typically only one per check-in)
    • Questions about things you don’t understand
  4. Request for Change (typically only one per check-in)
    • Sometimes tied to puzzles
  5. Is there anything you need in the next X days to feel love and cherished?
    • Based on how often you do check-ins
  6. Is there anything you need in the next X days d/s wise?
    • Based on how often you do check-ins
  7. Is there anything you have been thinking about in the past week that you would like to talk about now?
  8. Wishes / Hopes / Dreams
    • Anything you want share with each other at that moment
  9. Seal with a kiss

This was based off the Daily Temperature Reading from the PAIRS Foundation Skills Class taken in the late 1990s. You can find the most recent version of the Daily Temperature Reading here: https://www.pairs.tools/resources

Note: We have no affiliation to the PAIRS Foundation.

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